Saturday, July 27, 2013

Better

I do better today. I was awake for six hours. Then I got very tired. Long time awake.

I walk better and talk better but still slur words but not as bad.

Focused more today, but then get tired. I did short word search and maze on kids menu today.

My head hurts and I get anxious and sometimes get irritated but not a lot, just a little.

I took shower today and had to get more clothes to stay more nights because people still have to watch me and we don't know for how long.


Friday, July 26, 2013

ER 3x

They made me go back to ER again. Three times. No more. I will not go anymore. No no.

I now have moderate concussion not just minor.

I am tired. My face is swollen. I have very slurred speech. I often need wheelchair or someone to help me walk.

I had Dr Jeckyll Mr Hyde symtoms today because I was usually goofy they said and more fun but then it changed instantly and I became very irritable. I was very nice and then i wasn't.

I am showing classic concussion symptoms. I am tired and I am done typing this, too much work. 

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Health Update

I went into work today, because that's what I do. My supervisor was all upset and big boss came in and was all concerned. I took some meds, got a little loopy and pretty disoriented again. They called my aunt, called the hospital, and I had to go back to the ER.

They're pretty sure I was just reacting to the drug (Vicodin) since I wasn't used to heavy narcotics..although even after 8 hours, I was still pretty out of it. They think it was because I was concentrating too hard and are amazed I was able to drive to work. They also determined that I have a concussion. I had to have a CT scan, where I felt like I was on a roller coaster. But they said it was normal.

The nurses were very nice. This morning, I was concerned because I didn't have tennis shoes on. My colleague said that should be the least of your worries right now. But it wasn't. For the last 5 hours all I have said basically over and over is "my house is a mess". That's all I can focus on. I have to have someone watch me for awhile, including overnight.

My nose is looking really bad now, and it looks like I have two black eyes. It's getting really swollen.

I have a concussion. I have a broken nose.

But I still feel like the boy who cried wolf. 

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Stress

I fainted last night...I became unconscious before I hit the ground, and since I was unconscious, I didn't use my hands to catch my fall...my face broke my fall and I broke my nose.


I woke up around 4am, wanted water, felt dizzy and woozy, got a cup, everything got blurry and I crashed to the floor and dropped my cup.

I assumed it was dehydration, since drinking water has never been something I'm good at it, but I really have been trying to get better. I was still woozy and fatigued and went to the hospital and they did urine analysis tests and blood tests and EKG test. Basically, everything looked fine. Except everything that had to do with stress, as seen in the blood work, were really high. Doc said it definitely wasn't dehydration and they don't really know what caused the unconsciousness.

I have an appointment with a nose specialist to see about my nose. It doesn't seem like too bad of a break, so hopefully it'll heal normally and everything will be fine.

Earlier this week, a colleague told me I was becoming a workaholic and getting addicted to work and working too hard and too much. I told her, I'm not doing real work, I'm fine. My mom and best friend have been worried about me lately. And then this happens.

In June, I worked 3 jobs, working 80 hours a week. Now, I'm working two jobs, working about 60 hours a week. I have a laundry list of things I'm legitimately stressed about and concerned about. Now that I've fainted, broke my nose, was rendered unconscious, spent my morning in the ER, am still woozy, I'm not really sure what to do.

In college, my supervisors would "ground me" and not let me do work because they thought I was working too hard and too much. I don't know how to not do this. I like work. I enjoy it. I've clearly chosen work over everything else. I know this. It gave me a clear understanding and guidelines for my life. Now, I don't know what to do with myself.

Saturday, July 13, 2013

My Story

I grew up believing I didn't have a story, and if I did, my story didn't matter. The people's whose stories that mattered were people like Paul, the dude in the Bible who used to murder Christians, only to be blinded for a few days,  had a profound encounter with God, and become one of the most faithful followers of Christ. People who clearly changed, like "I once was a drug addict and had no hope, and now I do, because of Jesus."

And my thought would be, "I once was a good kid and had hope, and now I have Jesus and am still a good kid and have hope." What a great disservice that is to God. My belief that I don't have a story is utterly ridiculous. Because when I became a Christ Follower, everything radically shifted. Some things were immediate, some are taking more time. But there is a vast difference in who I was before Christ and who I am with Christ. I'm not who I was. Jesus changed me.

Before Jesus, I defined my worth in people's opinions and my performance.
With Jesus, my worth is defined by Him.

Before Jesus, I only loved America.
With Jesus, I learned to love the world.

Before Jesus, I was bound by the chains of my sin.
With Jesus, I am free from the bondage.

Before Jesus, I just did what I was told.
With Jesus, I rationally understood my beliefs.

Before Jesus, I was simply a "good kid".
With Jesus, I did good things because of my love for Jesus.

Before Jesus, I thought to be imperfect meant to not be loved.
With Jesus, I learned that I am imperfect, and I am still loved.

Before Jesus, love was conditional.
With Jesus, there is agape love.

Before Jesus, I was full of regret and doubt.
With Jesus, I am restored with hope and forgiveness.


Matthew West: Hello, My Name Is



Friday, May 10, 2013

Summer Girls

LFO has a song called "Summer Girls". There's a line that says, "I like girls that wear Abercrombie & Fitch, I'd take her if I had one wish".

I was like 9 or 10 when that song came out and I remember thinking, I can't wait to be one of those girls. 

When I was 11, I began to discover I would never be one of those girls.
When I was 12, that idea started to manifest.
When I was 14, I combatted that idea.
When I was 15, I learned that the boys of LFO would never like me.
And when I was 17, I officially understood what the detrimental effects of not being one of those girls were and acknowledged I would never be one.

There has been media circulating around Mike Jeffries, CEO of A&F, and his blatant exclusionary rule with his stores. You can read just a few of the stories herehere, here, and here. This picture of Mike Jeffries and his direct quote sums it up:


I've seen responses of people attacking Jeffries himself, saying he isn't attractive.
I've seen responses of, is this real? (Yes, this is real.)
I've seen responses of, just ignore it.
I've seen responses of those outside of the target audience being mad and hurt.
I've seen responses of tearful letters being written to Jeffries.
I've seen responses of mothers not allowing their kids to shop at A&F.

What I haven't seen though are responses from his actual target audience. I don't really know how to read stock, but I'm pretty sure green means good. Check it: https://www.google.com/finance?q=NYSE:ANF

In the past five days, since this statement came out, A&F stock has steadily increased. Basically, in financial terms, it doesn't really matter whether people disagree with this policy or hate Jeffries or are upset.


I argue two things:
1. His target audience matters.
2. In every other way, except financially, A&F policies and statements do actually matter.


His Target Audience Matters

The "cool" kids need to stand up and say this isn't right. Instead of the moms saying their kids can't shop there, the kids need to say, I won't shop there. Same result, different means. And that matters. Instead of people saying Jeffries is unattractive (and okay, I don't think he's the sexiest man alive..or even on the top 1000 list), we need to better define "attractive". Instead of those outside of his target audience writing letters (or perhaps, in addition to), those within his target audience need to write letters. Instead of those outside of his target audience refusing to shop there (although, the point is is that you couldn't, even if you wanted to), those within his target audience need to refuse to shop there. 

Here's the thing, A&F has never sold clothes in the double digit size (although I think it does go up to 10). So really, people who are all up in arms about that fact are seriously behind the times, and this company has been around since 1892. For anything to happen, for any kind of movement or of change to happen, the people who have to do it are the cool kids. 

The people who Jeffries calls cool. Whether you think cool people are only thin, attractive, and have large social circles or not doesn't matter. The point is, that's who Jeffries thinks is cool and that's who has to fight this battle with him. It can't be those who he already doesn't care about, those people never shopped at his store before. The cool people, his target audience, need to respond. People outside of the target audience can show ways to respond in hopes that cool people mirror such actions. But if there is as big of a discrepancy between the cool and not cool kids as Jeffries thinks, then not even that will work. If those two groups are merged together, then that will work. 


In every other way, except financially, A&F policies and statements do actually matter

They don't matter financially because his target audience doesn't seem to give a flying rip about his statements, so they're still selling clothes. But in every other way, they do matter, and that's why ignoring it is a terrible choice. Ignoring something never makes it go away. All you're doing is pretending it doesn't exist. And his statements are very real and their are very real effects to his statements. He may not care and his target audience may not care, but other people do. 

I'm not technically part of his target audience, but I have always been in the normal weight range when BMI is calculated. I'm "bigger" now than I've ever been and my jean size is still in the single digits. Throughout HS, I was always a size 2 and I thought the world was going to end when I moved up to a size 4 in college. I didn't accept or believe that the average American women is a size 14. I literally felt like my life had been ruined. I started defining myself by the number on my jeans, particularly when it came to interacting with the opposite sex. 

People like Jeffries invaded my thoughts, actions, and beliefs. Statements like his began to ruin my life. When people are told they aren't good looking by one person, that sucks. When people are told they aren't good looking by all of society, that is detrimental. These policies are harmful and do serious damage. It's not healthy for a college girl to think she's fat because she's a size 4. It's not healthy for a high school boy to think he's not man enough because he can't lift 100 pounds. It's not healthy for a high school girl to believe she's ugly because she's not tall enough or thin enough. 

Body image and self esteem impact individuals, obviously. But more than that, it affects society, nationally and internationally. It's a private trouble that has rightfully turned into a public issue. People should get up in arms about what Jeffries says and about A&F policies. It's the duty of people outside his target audience to combat these thoughts, to uplift those who are weighed down by the need to fit the mold of being attractive, to become healthy, rather than unhealthy. 

The missions are different. His target audience needs to fight the battle with Jeffries. Those outside his target audience need to fight the battle with society. Maybe that's how the populations can merge and we can win. 

Thursday, May 9, 2013

True Love Waits?

I don't really know how to say this concept better than what is here: http://gracefortheroad.com/2012/02/03/idontwait/

I will briefly summarize and paraphrase and maybe add a bit, but it's all from (or stems from) the writing posted above.

As I read this article (and re-read..and re-read) I noticed that the only differing things in my life and that of the author are that:
1. I've never had a tangible purity ring (thank you, parents!)
2. I'm not 25.

Everything else. Spot on. Want to know what I have on my bookshelf? "Lady in Waiting". Want to know what I have in a journal, because it's been engrained in my head? I can't date until I'm "satisfied" in God. Want to know what quote I have memorized? Search for a man by searching for God. Want to know why I abstained in the past? Because I was supposed to.

Every single example. I got, I understood, I had lived. And I can bet that most girls from church world can to.

"True love waits" is a tragically misguided statement. It's saying that where you are now is not good enough. It's saying that you need to wait, just because that's what you're supposed to do. Beyond that, it's saying that you will have a "true love" and if you don't, God is not a provider. It's saying that a spouse is a prize and you can have the prize denied.

If instead I was taught that it's okay to yearn for a husband, that I'm abstaining because I love Jesus, not because I'm "waiting", that Jesus isn't a means to the end of a husband, that sex can be talked about, that falling in love with Jesus is what it's all about, things would be radically different.

Learning is hard enough. Having to unlearn and then relearn concepts is just really difficult.